Elizabeth - well done so far! Keep going ...

I am so pleased to read that after the struggles you must have had (and I expect you've only told us half the story) things have worked so well for you and your mother. A bad person because you did all that even while you knew the impact on your life and marriage? Never! The responsibility for setti...

Jenny is right; it is at least worth trying to spell the choices out. My aged Mum - very mentally alert in every other way - failed to grasp the point for a long time. We lived in different towns, so I would go over by public transport after work and OH came late in the evening to drive me home. I h...

This thing about children worries me a lot. I helped support my mum (my brother bore the brunt of it). Mum was difficult - very alert mentally, but found it hard to walk, disliked ageing and being alone. I was then the 24/7 carer for my dear husband. I am so aware that we had planned to prop each ot...

Thank you for the thread. It's made me go and write the thank you letter I should have sent after OH died, which (shamefully) I had kept putting off. The GP surgery always rang me back if I had a query, always found him an appointment, always waited to listen to what he was saying when he got there ...

I've sent you a pm as I'm not sure what the rules about recommending specific products are on here. I found a site selling things for children that had some brilliant (but pricey)protective sheets in adult bed sizes.

My Mum ( who died age 90) used and liked them. She found the ordering process easy and the delivery reliable. She liked the option of small portions and I never heard her complain about the choice or quality (and she was a bit given to complaining!). I knew someone whose elderly relative had poor si...

I wish you both a peaceful time while you wait together. Please do know that everyone here will be thinking of you at this time. We don't know each other so please - do not be upset by my suggestion. My experience suggests that you should notify the GP now unless they have been in recently as they w...

It's definitely competiton time (for referrals and notes; I certainly don't want to compete with the enema story!).

Just to pick up on the issue of not being told anything: your friend if they wished could try writing a letter to the GP and Hospital which says something to the effect that "I give permission for X_1808 to be told when I am admitted to hospital and what my condition and treatment is". That should b...