I am sure others have better suggestions but if were me I think I would see a solicitor. They have a 'duty of care' surely?

I frankly would beg you not to give up your job and do not be blackmailed into doing so.
I agree with BB and with Jenny. Make an effort to have a life of your own. I agree with the old being vampirish too - my husband gets very angry if anyone assumes I am his daughter usually the medical staff.

I am so glad you have found a good therapist.
Well yes and no Jenny. I moved into his apartment back in 1990 when I married him and that was in HIS name. I do feel given length of marriage, if we divorced he would more or less get half. The law changed in 2002 with regard to the 'Married Woman's Property act' and in my interpretation, things ar...
Well the house was put in my name around 2005 - my parents divorced and i had to buy my mother out as my father had cancer and was threatening suicide. In fairness I got it for a good price and my father lived in it for several years and then it became a 'let' and then we moved in! So hopefully it i...
Yes I have seen the will and actually asked Solicitor if it had been changed and the answer was no. Yes, he could have changed it since BUT he does not go out alone and cannot easily use the computer now plus I get the post everyday. So the only way he could stop me having the house which is in my n...
The house is in my name Jenny - not sure husband remembers this but it was a 'buy to let' and for tax reasons it was in my name . However, due to length of marriage, if we divorced, then I am pretty sure I would have to sell and give half the proceeds to him. Yes if I left, I KNOW he would be un-cop...
I realise Miranda you have tried therapists but maybe you could give it a last go? Maybe find someone who specialises in carer relationships? It does sound as if your husband is going downhill though so maybe nature will take its course?
Well I think Jenny, that dementia does cause what most would agree is 'unreasonable behaviour' so it would be worth Miranda at least seeking legal advice.Also maybe a note from the GP saying that she was not able to cope long term as a carer? Sounds harsh I know but if I had the financial means, I w...
Well I think Jenny, that dementia does cause what most would agree is 'unreasonable behaviour' so it would be worth Miranda at least seeking legal advice.Also maybe a note from the GP saying that she was not able to cope long term as a carer? Sounds harsh I know but if I had the financial means, I w...
I totally understand why you reacted the way you did Pet - making him stay in bed until Wednesday is not acceptable as he will lose mobility. No advice apart from challenge the decision. I do realise it is hard on the staff if he does lash out and the staff's safety is a consideration. But surely th...