Cat,

I have taken the liberty of posting this in the Condolences section in case some of our members wish to support and have not seen this message.

So sorry, Cat, to hear of your loss. Thanks to you, mum was able to live and die as she wanted which is a wonderful thing. You will be exhausted over the coming weeks and months. I know I was. We will be here for you whenever you want to talk x

Hi Cat,

Thinking of you and your mum at this difficult time.

Others have said it all already. The power of touch and smell are the last senses to go, maybe a hand massage for mum. You have given up much of your life for mum, and done your very best. That is all anyone can ask.

Anne x

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Hi Joyce,

This is a Forum for people who care unpaid for loved ones. I am afraid we would not be very knowledgeable on this. I can only suggest you discuss it with your care company.

Kind regards,
Anne

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