Interesting discussion. Who will care for those without children?
http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p03ymlc6
http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p03ymlc6
So now I find myself facing older age with no family to care for me, as
I have done for my mum and I admit it scares me. I have seen, through
many crisis points with mum, how vulnerable you can be in the social care
system and the NHS – let alone in wider society - with no-one to speak up
and fight for you
‘You know they won’t let me go home from hospital unless
there’s a named person to pick me up. They insist they have to
ring them to come and get me. I tell them I don’t have a name
to give and they look surprised as if it never happens. Perhaps
it is just me who doesn’t have anyone.’
‘If I get dementia, who is going to tell the carers I don’t like
sprouts and hate ‘Eastenders’? No-one is going to know, are
they? And I won’t be able to tell them.’
If I had had children I definitely wouldn't want them to have to care for me as I cared for my own Mum. I do have nieces but they have their own families to worry about and I've told them that if I go the same way as Nana Audrey they are to book me into the nearest care home and get on with their own lives ! But at the same time a part of me hopes that they will still look out for me in my old age and not leave me to the 'tender mercies' of the state !‘I felt excluded because I wasn’t a mum, and now I feel
excluded because I don’t have grandchildren.’
Oh I see, sorry, I couldn't watch it as I don't have the right 'something or other' on my computer for it to play (or so it told me!).susieq wrote:The programme wasn't about "caring" for an older person - but about who will speak up for the older person and advocate on their behalf.
I looked up the Ageing Without Children website and read their report - quite a few of the quotes in the report resonated with me
So now I find myself facing older age with no family to care for me, as
I have done for my mum and I admit it scares me. I have seen, through
many crisis points with mum, how vulnerable you can be in the social care
system and the NHS – let alone in wider society - with no-one to speak up
and fight for you‘You know they won’t let me go home from hospital unless
there’s a named person to pick me up. They insist they have to
ring them to come and get me. I tell them I don’t have a name
to give and they look surprised as if it never happens. Perhaps
it is just me who doesn’t have anyone.’‘If I get dementia, who is going to tell the carers I don’t like
sprouts and hate ‘Eastenders’? No-one is going to know, are
they? And I won’t be able to tell them.’If I had had children I definitely wouldn't want them to have to care for me as I cared for my own Mum. I do have nieces but they have their own families to worry about and I've told them that if I go the same way as Nana Audrey they are to book me into the nearest care home and get on with their own lives ! But at the same time a part of me hopes that they will still look out for me in my old age and not leave me to the 'tender mercies' of the state !‘I felt excluded because I wasn’t a mum, and now I feel
excluded because I don’t have grandchildren.’
For anyone interested this is a link to the Ageing Without Children report
https://ageingwithoutchildren.files.wor ... eport1.pdf