Should I return to caring as I am a vulnerable person?

[Lynne _2007]

Hi, sorry if this isn't in the right place. I'm a carer for my sister, she is diabetic. I, myself am both diabetic and asthmatic. I haven't been to my sisters since lockdown began. I've had issues with my asthma at least 3 times since April. Now I'm not sure if I should be returning to care for my sister or still staying at home. There's no risk assessment done, no safety measures put in place and I don't feel comfortable returning just yet. Does anyone have any advice for me please? thank you

[Ayjay]

There's no risk assessment done, no safety measures put in place and I don't feel comfortable returning just yet. Does anyone have any advice for me please? thank you

This is an easy question to answer: CoronaVirus is still out there, your sister is surviving without your intervention, carry on as you are.

[bowlingbun]

I agree. Your own health is your top priority, if you don't look after your own health, no one else will!

If she needs help and support, she can ask Social Services for it.

[Honey Badger]

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[Lynne _2007]

Hello Lynne,

Beyond the comments regarding the safeguarding of your own health,

I honestly believe if your sister has remained safe and well and has not come to suffer as a result of the distancing, it may be worth reconsidering your position as a carer and having social services step up to provide assistance on a long term basis where it is required.

Thank you Honey Badger, I have been thinking this through during lockdown and I did come to the conclusion that she can cope perfectly well without me, I feel as though I am just an emotional crutch/taxi service, even though my sister can drive herself. So much so that I have started to look at jobs, had a telephone interview yesterday so I've really decided to get myself back into the workplace.
Thank you for your kind reply

[Lynne _2007]

There's no risk assessment done, no safety measures put in place and I don't feel comfortable returning just yet. Does anyone have any advice for me please? thank you

This is an easy question to answer: CoronaVirus is still out there, your sister is surviving without your intervention, carry on as you are.

Thank you! I don't know why, I just feel like I need justification.

[Lynne _2007]

I agree. Your own health is your top priority, if you don't look after your own health, no one else will!

If she needs help and support, she can ask Social Services for it.

Very true, thank you for your advice.

[bowlingbun]

Crutch, or slave?? We are all responsible for our own lives and happiness, but too often we are manipulated by others in thinking they have more right to our lives than we have. If I could live my life again I'd do things very differently.
Now is the time to put yourself first, and enjoy yourself.

[Lynne _2007]

Crutch, or slave?? We are all responsible for our own lives and happiness, but too often we are manipulated by others in thinking they have more right to our lives than we have. If I could live my life again I'd do things very differently.
Now is the time to put yourself first, and enjoy yourself.

Slave mostly, put upon, spoken to like dirt at times, expected to come running for the smallest things. It can be so frustrating. It's good to know I'm not alone.

[bowlingbun]

The only power she has over you is the power you let her have.
The solution is simple. Don't let her have any.
If she is rude to you on the phone, say I don't have to listen to this, and put the phone down.
At her house? Stop immediately what you are doing, say the same thing, and leave.
What does she do for you??!!