Bringing Dad home?

[Hugs]

Dad is locked down in his care home.

We have been very lucky judging by other posts in that we have been able to visit in the garden several times a week.
However I'm concerned that once the colder weather comes in Dad will only be allowed one visit a week as this will need to be indoors.
Therefore I'm questioning if we could bring him home for the winter.

Has any one else done this because of being locked down?
How have you found it?

I know it's not going to be easy but I can't keep Dad locked up for the winter with one visit a week.

What are your thoughts?

[sunnydisposition]

I guess it's what's is in Dad's best interest. What are your Dad's problems? There is lot to consider and if it would be too disrupted. I would speak with the home. To see has there been any policy for later in the year re: family visiting.

I would like it also a little early to expect homes to know the answer. Everywhere is trying to make adjustments as we continue on in the pandemic.

[Melly1]

Hi Hugs,
in part it depends on why he went into the care home in the first place. Usually people go into a care home because their care needs are too great for their family to meet, if this was the case, then how would cope meeting all his care needs if their was a Winter lockdown? Have his needs increased since he was in the care home?

I have friends who have had their disabled children home during lockdown - some have had to give up and they have gone back to their care/group home or supported living flats. They then go from being full time at home to no contact at all.

No easy answers, are there.

Melly1

[bowlingbun]

Don't do it. It's not fair on dad, because he obviously needed to be in a home in the first place, and will need to go back in when you are reminded of just how much care he needs - and as he's used to having 24/7 staff available, the demands on you will be far greater!
I know it's not ideal, but nothing is ideal at the moment, is it?
There would be so much upheaval for dad, and he wouldn't be able to go back to the room he knows in the home he knows, with the staff he knows, and who know him.

[Anne001]

I understand your desire to do so, Hugs, but I would urge you to think what is best for your dad. Would he be more disoriented if he then had to return to the care home later by which time there might not be a space at that care home.? They are businesses after all.

Unless you are prepared for him to live with you for ever, I think it would be a mistake. And none of us know what the future holds with the coronavirus. Maybe he will be able to get more visits than you think? Also, if he is living with you, would that put him more at risk?

Lots to think about and no easy answer.

[joyce_20081]

I hope you will find a way out. Stay safe

[Lindi]

Hi I visited my Brother on Thurs (garden visit 15 mins) and the Care Assistant said all visits had been cancelled the day before because of weather, I said what happens to visits in the Winter? She said who knows we might go back to no visits if the Government advises She wasn't really allowed to speak about it as I had to sign a disclaimer not to ask questions about Covid 19 or Residents Health Issues

[bowlingbun]

You had to sign a disclaimer not to ask about the virus or your relatives health!!!

I think you need to talk to the Care Quality Commission about that. It's outrageous to me.

[Lindi]

I thought it was a bit much

[bowlingbun]

There is something in the CQC guidelines that talks about being "transparent" with relatives, open and honest, not trying to cover things up.
So the policy just makes me wonder what they are covering up?!