One of my son's suffers from clinical depression, as well as insulin dependent diabetes. He is almost 21.
We are having a really rough time with him, and I don't know whether he has something more than clinical depression. He seems to have lost his conscience, he stays in his bedroom for at least 22 out of 24 hours,and if we try to reason with him, he says his mind has gone and he cannot remember anything, which makes it impossible to even try to reason with him. Our GP feels that it is 6 of one and half a dozen of the other, and I can't disagree, as I have no idea.Our son does nothing round the house,does not take care of himself, he is able to drive, and when I asked the GP about this, he said that I should use my parental discretion, to take the keys off him, if I felt it was necessary. As my son is 21, I believe that health wise, it should not be up to me to decide on my son's state of mind. I am not a Dr or a Psychiatrist,and I have to make decisions on behalf of my other son, who has Downs Syndrome,I do not want to pick up after this son. If he is going to be a danger on the roads, then he is unable to look after himself,so we need more support from the mental health team. My son is not abiding by the rules of our home either, last night, he was smoking in his room, after the house had closed down for the night. Nobody else in the house smokes, and as I get a bad cough and chest,which leave me ill for weeks,which he knows, then we do not want anyone to smoke.
Our son goes out one night a week with friends.
He lies constantly;not just to us, but the last time he had work experience, he lied to them, and then told us that they were the ones lying.
I feel that if he cannot abide by the rules of the house, then we will have to give him notice, as the situation is now intolerable, but I am extremely anxious about his diabetes care, as he just won't bother. I know I need to step back, but WHAT if my son has something like bipolar disorder, and his lies are being believed by the Psychiatrist?
We have been living with this for three years now, and the only support, (which is actually really good), is from the local branch of MIND.
I am desperate, at the moment, I am afraid to approach him directly, as he is so aggressive, although hasn't been violent. The only person he is never nasty to, is our son with Downs Syndrome.
I would really appreciate any help.THank you.