Onset of memory loss

[bowlingbun]

One of my closest friends is now showing undeniable signs of memory loss. Her mother and grandmother both had dementia and it was her greatest fear that she too would suffer. We chat on the phone fairly regularly, but haven't seen each other recently due to my health problems. I will be visiting her soon. What can I say to her, if she mentions this problem? She has a lovely, but busy daughter, who must have noticed. What can I say to her? Where is the best place for her daughter to get advice? I already have two carees so won't be able to do much to help.

[NanaNana]

If she does recognise that she has a problem, ask her if she's seen her GP about it first off. Say you've noticed it more and more and are worried about her.
She may be in denial and scared about what it could be, due to the family history.

[malc]

has she been doctors for blood tests and had her urine checked,there are a lot of reasons for memory loss apart from dementia,if it is dementia,love and letting her know you will be there for her will be the best support you can give her,she will be scared and like my wife who had experience of dementia through working in care homes,so knows to a certain extent what's coming,the saying "ignorance is bliss" is so true,i myself know where it's going and wish i didn't because my dad had alzheimers,she is probably also scared of losing friends through it so reassure her you will be there for her.

[michael parker]

I agree,being honest but also letting her know that you are there for her is the greatest thing you can do.

[bowlingbun]

Thanks for all your kind advice. I'm certainly not going to raise the subject unless she does. We have been friends for over 40 years and we've always supported each other through all the trials and tribulations of our lives, so she will always be my friend, whatever happens. Whilst she tends to be of the "ignore it and it will go away" school, I like to get to the bottom of things, so to speak. So if the subject does come up, with your help I can now encourage her to go to the GP as it may have a simple cause. Thanks for that. All postings really appreciated.

[Lazydaisy]

I agree with Audrey, many things can cause memory loss;anaemia and thyroid problems included.
Since my son died, my loss of memory is scary.I know that it happens to most bereaved parents,so accept it as part of who I am now.
Good luck.