Parsifal wrote:.......I believe that people with disabilities are entitled to be treated equally, not preferentially .....
finding and suggesting an alternative which does not require the same level of skill is probably a good idea
Melly1 wrote:finding and suggesting an alternative which does not require the same level of skill is probably a good idea
sounds like a good idea.
Let us know what happens.
by charles47 » Sun Apr 22, 2012 6:24 am
2) Be very clear about what is and is not a reasonable level of proficiency.
Parsifal wrote:I have no idea what the activity is but I do hope that this experience will not prevent the members welcoming someone with LD who does have the required level of proficiency into the group but perhaps to prevent anyone, with or without a disability, joining and negatively impacting on the group in the future you need to consider whether you should set it up on a semi-formal basis with a minimum standard of proficiency requirement to gain membership.
Melly1 wrote:I can see this is a problem to the group, but can't help seeing it from another perspective, what if it was my caree? How would I feel then for him and me?
Lazydaisy wrote:I feel like crying,reading this post.I am already responsible for my son's needs. Does this mean that I should not be encouraging him to live as normal a life as possible?Does this mean that everyone is just pretending that he can live anything like a normal life, JUST because he has Downs Syndrome?
Perhaps I should lock my son up,keep him indoors all the time.
Surely, joining any sort of a group may mean that you need to boost your competecny anyway?Not all the members are going to have the same level of skill in your group.
I hope that I would not put him into an inappropriate situation, but what do I do if he wants something that I do not think is a good idea?I do not always get it right.
ann_I_uk wrote:The disruptive/anti social behaviour isn't the result of frustration as 'A' is quite oblivious to his lack of skill, it's just his 'normal' way of doing things, viewed by his family as little eccentricities ... such as sticking a hand down inside the front of his trousers for a good 'groinal' scratch and re-arrangement of bits and pieces ..... no matter where and who he's with at the time
Parsifal wrote:ann_I_uk wrote: ..... just his 'normal' way of doing things, viewed by his family as little eccentricities ... such as sticking a hand down inside the front of his trousers for a good 'groinal' scratch and re-arrangement of bits and pieces ..... no matter where and who he's with at the time
I would define that type of behaviour as socially inappropriate or unacceptable rather than disruptive or anti-social, embarrassing perhaps for those who witness it but not harmful
By encouraging someone to engage in an activity which is outside their ability range those who are providing the encouragment are also setting that person up to feel .. a sense of failure and the disappointment which goes with it, in a worse case scenario a loss of belief in oneself which could prevent someone doing the things for which they do have the skills or capacity to engage in ..
And I think that this is what this is about, i.e. having realistic expectations along with the difficult position it puts other people in when someone chooses or is encouraged to do something beyond their capacity or, as in this case, skill level, which makes it hard for other members of a group and creates problems for all concerned and how to resolve the problems without causing further problems.
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