Hello Tracy. Lovely to have you with us here. Thanks for introducing yourself.
Not sure if I can offer much advice. In many ways we are each of us experts in our situations and I think you understand the position you are in and the weight you carry. I wonder what advice you would offer to someone in your position ?
Sadly, the weight of caring too often falls more on one person than on others. Thats the way it often is. Unfair of course. Hard to change. Do others know how you feel ? Have you asked anyone directly for help ? Of course, you should not have to ask. Yes, coping with doing 'more than your fair share' is something that can eat you emotionally, but try not to let it. Its tough, but sometimes we must try to accept things the way they are.
Yes, people will tell you that you need a break. Some time for yourself. You need some recovery time as caring is exhausting, both physically and mentally. Or it can often be. And you need some time and 'space' for your own self, and your 'identity'. So often we can feel consumed by the role of being someone's carer and leave behind any other roles / identity. So I do think its important to find some way to nurture your sense of self. And that is very personal to each and every one of us in terms of what exactly that means in practice. As in most things in life, balance is the key..... caring for the person we love, and caring for ourself. And in some ways, the two are one and the same, not mutually exclusive.
Sounds like you are doing a great job. But a tough one Tracy. Sounds like you have reached a point where the balance is just not right. And something needs to change. You need some support. And time out. Have you ever asked for a Carer's Assessment, I wonder ?
I'm really pleased you joined us here, and even more pleased that you have realised you need some help and are wanting to think about the way ahead. Excellent. I wish you well. Plenty of support here and gentle words of encouragement.
All good wishes,