Thank you so much everyone for all the advice and ideas for relaxation.
I asked for a carers assessment back in Sept/Oct last year and have heard nothing. I got asked over the telephone what I do as my caring role, which isnt easy to sum up over the phone, and was told they might be able to help by getting someone to help with the gardening. This doesnt sound like a lot, but would be so good. Not heard anything until the other day when social services phoned to speak to my husband, and because of our dealings with social services regarding our daughter and them not being at all helpful, and making matters so much worse my husband has now refused any help from them. I do agree with him, but this leaves me struggling to cope with it all again.
I'm not sure if I've even had a carers assessment. Does anyone care about me or what help I need? What does a carers assessment involve?
My health visitor has been fantastic, and she has been visiting every 2 weeks for the last couple of months and has helped us deal with things and make some very difficult decissions regarding our older daughter.
As for me time its almost impossible. I get a couple of hrs in the evening when the little ones are in bed and spend most of that time doing household paper work, or helping my teenage son.
Then when I go to bed the night shift begins as the 2 yr old isnt a good sleeper at all.
I feel like my whole life is about me helping and caring for others, which I dont mind, its just really difficult at the moment.
As a child I cared for my mum who has learning difficulties and suffered depression and panic attacks, and my older brother who also has learning difficulties.