the cumultative affect of caring shouldn't be underestimated. I have been caring for S for nearly 11 years and he has got more complex to care for in recent years, and that combined with no break for so long has multiplied the affect on me, of caring.
Caring when you are in pain is even harder, you are being pushed to the tolerance limit from all angles. Not to mention feeling guilty trying to juggle your needs with your carees needs. I have arthritis too and had my most recent op a year ago. In the lead up to that op I was really crippled and that made caring for S - challenging, energetic etc even more difficult.
If your hip resurface has failed and is giving you lot of pain, they will have to act. Are they suggesting a THR?
Time to start badgering that social worker - ringing up to find out what is happening and making a not of date, time and who you spoke to each time...
Hope your GP gets the counselling sorted for you asap. Not surprised you are struggling with all the chores, would any of those folks who used to tease you about keeping everything so nice, give a bit of practical help if you asked?
(ex-foster) Mum and single carer to S, who is 21. Has ASD, epilepsy, IBS and displays challenging behaviour when anxious or hormonal.