Welcome to forum where I hope you will find the help and support you need for yourself as well as your hubby.
If he is unfit for work,his doctor has to give him a sick note,especially if you have had this confirmed by the specialist he is under.If you have any further problems getting one ,contact the local medical board or enlist help of your MP.
Sharing our problems with family is something most of us will relate to Diane.At times we dread others knowing our personal business but better to do it sooner when they can still help than later when it possibly becomes an emergency and they have no idea what to do.If you think they will help you, please consider talking to them,make them aware of the situation.It may help release some of your own stress to confide in someone you know.
Previously on this thread I posted a link for Linzilou to an information page of CUK which lists many places to get help.Try find time to look it over.
http://www.carersuk.org/Information/Fin ... anisations
Have you had a benefits check Diane for both of you.Are you claiming all that you're entitled too.This is a necessity since you are struggling financially.
CarersLine 0808 808 7777
CarersLine is Carers UK's free advice line for carers. It is open on Wednesday and Thursday each week between 10am-12pm and 2pm-4pm. Telephone 0808 808 7777
You also have Welfare Rights
Citizens Advice Bureau
This next one is for help and support about mental health problems..
0845 767 8000
Opening times 1pm to 11pm every day.
Here is the address for the carers group in Leeds....
Leeds PRT Carers Centre
6-8 The Headrow
Tel: 0113 246 8338
If you have time to contact them,you may meet others in a similar situation to your own.
Social services could be a port of call too but I think I have bombarded you enough for now with the above.Hopefully in amongst the information you will get some support.
In the meantime Diane,keep posting to offload any further worries,dont bottle them up.We wont have all the answers but we can listen.
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