How on earth?

[barrowgirl]

Thanks for that. I can see your point. The problem I've got now though is my hb wouldn't co-operate now,after the driving fiasco.If I get domestic violence from him, the GP suggests not informing her but calling the police.My point is-shouldn't violence be something they shouild want to know about-for my hbs treament? Doctors seem really daft to me.Do they expect agressive people with conditions like Aspergers to turn up at the surgery and say "I cracked the Mrs one last night." Of course my hub isn't going to do that (go to the docs I mean ) it's like they think "well his mental health problem is your problem."

Er- I'm I'm sure this must have been said a zillion times on here, but carers get a really bad deal.There should be a better system than this Ho hum.


goodnight all
B.

[inspired]

when we go to see our doctor my husband pretends things are not as bad as they really are ,i think this is because he is very anxious and if there is nothing to discuss (according to him) so he can go home.Its like spending time in bed , he does'nt have to "think " if he is sleeping , he can hide away from everything.
Glad i found this forum , i have felt very lonely over the last few years,why do people run away from mental illness? how do i explain to people that depression is not the same as feeling down or sad. feel better for having a moan tho

[barrowgirl]

Hello Inspired, it's frustrating isn't it? welcome though I am new myself and only live not far from you in Yorkshire.
B

[no1mum]

when we go to see our doctor my husband pretends things are not as bad as they really are ,i think this is because he is very anxious and if there is nothing to discuss (according to him) so he can go home.Its like spending time in bed , he does'nt have to "think " if he is sleeping , he can hide away from everything.
Glad i found this forum , i have felt very lonely over the last few years,why do people run away from mental illness? how do i explain to people that depression is not the same as feeling down or sad. feel better for having a moan tho

It helps to have a moan and share some of the frustration.
Welcome to the forum. x x

[no1mum]

I'm not far away either.

[inspired]

Thanks barrowgirl and No1 mum . I cant tell you how much knowing you are there for me.Slight improvement in my husband or is it me who feels better and not so frustrated with him

[Myrtle]

I'm pretty far away in miles, but only a click on here.
Welcome

[barrowgirl]

Good news:- my hub has voluntarily given up his license.Also- he has put in writing to our docs that we can now speak without him being present.It took months but we got there in the end!!!
Hope "Inspired" is still doing ok and thanks to everyone else who has contributed.Don't worry-I'll soon come up with fresh moans


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[aur3]

Hi, I'm having the same problem with my partner here, with the doctors saying they can say anything about his health because of confidenciality...I find it very frustrating!! He's epileptic with left side hemiparesis so can't drive. That much be such a worry for you!

[birdymom]

Hi barrowgirl and welcome to the forum from another newbie. I recognise only to well what both yourself and inspired have to deal with. I feel sure my husband is an undiagnosed aspergers sufferer. He tries to control me and abuses me both mentally and emotionally and has done for the 41years I've known him. You don't realise what is going on for many years and you can't explain their behaviour to other people or doctors as the sufferer behaves normally in front of everyone else.

birdymom