Hi all - thanks for the replies - and the hugs n' virtual chocolate was much appreciated
Been awol over the last few days as have had my mum visiting - always good to have something else thrown into the mix eh? Just for a bit of extra stress. Anyway, she's gone home now.
The Cancer thing has gone on the backburner for now. We've been arguing about work today, as just talking about it stresses my OH out, and it had become the elephant in the room. I'm concerned, as his work are being incredibly unsupportive about his mental health issues, that he's going to lose his job. They're talking disciplinaries over performance at the last contact. Like that's going to help the whole situation. Fortunately the Union rep is handling all this directly at the moment - she seems to think they are just blustering, and that their treatment of him is leaving them on very shaky ground. But it doesn't help. And meanwhile I stress about money and just generally feel hugely wound up at the moment.
I also find my OH constantly being at home, while I have to drag myself to work everyday; plus things not getting done around the house despite him being at home; and not getting any space to myself - all really hard. Then I feel bad for not being more sympathetic.