Teetering

[phoenix]

You know how it is - you spend week after week propping people up, then one day it all just lands on top of you at once, and you think 'I can't cope with this'. I'm having one of those days today. My partner, who is a couple of months into anti depressants, and just starting down the road of pre-therapy consultation - has been to the docs/hospital today having found a 'lump' - chances are that its benign, according to the consultant, but his blase attitude to 'what will be will be' and the prospect of there being something else shitty to deal with, just left me in tears when I came off the phone to him. I've had plenty of cancer experiences with direct family members and friends. The thought of this being added to the depression/mental health issues, no matter how small the chances, makes me feel like I can't cope.

No answers really to this I know - I just needed to get all that off my chest!

xxx

[bowlingbun]

What about some counselling and help for you? There is only so much anyone can cope with, it's all very well your husband not being bothered, but that means that he isn't the least bit concerned about you, or how you will cope with the extra problems. You need some decent support, at least a chance to offload. I had counselling when I was on the verge of cracking up, and it was very useful. Please take care of yourself too.

[no1mum]

Sending ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) and I'm glad you've got you're feelings off your chest. x x

[crocus]

Cant add any more advice phoenix, audrey and bowling have got there first, but Im sending you some virtual chocolate

[phoenix]

Hi all - thanks for the replies - and the hugs n' virtual chocolate was much appreciated

Been awol over the last few days as have had my mum visiting - always good to have something else thrown into the mix eh? Just for a bit of extra stress. Anyway, she's gone home now.

The Cancer thing has gone on the backburner for now. We've been arguing about work today, as just talking about it stresses my OH out, and it had become the elephant in the room. I'm concerned, as his work are being incredibly unsupportive about his mental health issues, that he's going to lose his job. They're talking disciplinaries over performance at the last contact. Like that's going to help the whole situation. Fortunately the Union rep is handling all this directly at the moment - she seems to think they are just blustering, and that their treatment of him is leaving them on very shaky ground. But it doesn't help. And meanwhile I stress about money and just generally feel hugely wound up at the moment.

I also find my OH constantly being at home, while I have to drag myself to work everyday; plus things not getting done around the house despite him being at home; and not getting any space to myself - all really hard. Then I feel bad for not being more sympathetic.

[Myrtle]

I also find my OH constantly being at home, while I have to drag myself to work everyday; plus things not getting done around the house despite him being at home; and not getting any space to myself - all really hard. Then I feel bad for not being more sympathetic.

That was what I found really hard too but you get used to it