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Slow life!

Posted: Sun May 28, 2017 12:27 pm
by Stephanie_17051
That's just how it feels. After 4 years caring and one year with carers hubby finally passed in March. Sad and relieved. And very exhausted even after a whole year of getting away from it regularly! In your experience how long does this take???

Re: Slow life!

Posted: Sun May 28, 2017 3:16 pm
by bowlingbun
A long, long time. This is the time to look after yourself, probably the first time in many years when you can do exactly what you like, or choose to do absolutely nothing!
Have you had a holiday on your own yet, without friends. This was a big step for me, my first real step forward for myself (I married at 19) but I've come a long way since then. Have you joined the widows group called Way Up, online? Well worth joining.

Re: Slow life!

Posted: Sun May 28, 2017 6:07 pm
by susieq
Stephanie_17051 wrote:That's just how it feels. After 4 years caring and one year with carers hubby finally passed in March. Sad and relieved. And very exhausted even after a whole year of getting away from it regularly! In your experience how long does this take???
As long as it takes !

Grief is different for everyone - there is no one size fits all and the same goes for recovering from a loss. Some people seem to get back to 'normal' in a matter of weeks or months, others take much longer. It's rather like asking 'how long is a piece of string'. I found it took me quite a while to get used to Mum not being here any more and even longer to accept that I could do what I wanted when I wanted without having to rush around like a headless chicken. I, like many others have found, did go through a period of catching every bug that was going around because I was exhausted and my immune system was depleted. It was my body's way of telling me to take it easy !

It's only been a couple of months for you so it's not surprising that you're still feeling exhausted - just take it one day at a time and don't expect too much of yourself.