Jenny... Thank you for all you advise and support... I know more then anything it's going to be difficult and there will be so many other challenges ahead and this is only the beginning...

BB... I generally don't think he can handle it all and the thing is he hasn't had anyone to support him all this time... He has lost friends in the past because of his false stories... Won't even call them lying because it's not his fault... More over exaggeration.., His top friend is his neighbor who's a 40ish yr old man and this gave me red flags at the beginning but like I understand it because I had evil pieces of work drop me when my mum fell ill and my brothers are no support and my dads a support but from a distance because divorce and what not but he is there for me when ever I need him... Life's extremely difficult...

Can I just ask... What counts as long term carer?? I've been looking after my mum for around 5 years but she was diagnosed over 10 years ago...