No, of course you don't sound like a wingebag! You sound like someone stressed with bad nights etc etc and a 'trying situation'!

Do please please please 'vent away' when and as you need to. It's one of the key functions of this forum.

It's like the freedom it gives us to say 'I hate being a carer' when society tells us we're 'supposed' (!) to be willing souls giving up our lives for our frail elderly parents....

And please don't let my uber-hostility to caring either upset or offend or irritate you!

Glad you got a better night's sleep - it's amazing the difference it can make. Hope tonight is good too :)

PS - you're right about office work. I could never work in an office again. I can't believe I too spent 30 years doing so!