Stephen, Just another point to consider - my mum's house was owned jointly by her and myself. Social Services wanted to force me to sell the house but I argued that one could not sell half a house. Social Services only backed down when a solicitor sent them a strongly worded letter telling them that...
(((Hugs))), Faye. I am not surprised you lost it, anyone would. How a nurse can think it is acceptable to leave an old frail man in that condition is beyond me. I have "lost it" several times at hospital and, to be honest, I think my mum got better treatment as a result. You should not have to do it...
Definitely a key safe, Melly, My mum's was fitted by the company who provided it with no fuss. All carers are very experienced in using them and, even though she lived in a high crime area, it was never tampered with. In fact we were told by the Police that even experienced burglars found them diffi...
Yes, nothing worse than caring when feeling ill yourself. Get better soon, Mary

Henrietta, how are the carrier bag shoes - any progress?
Sending ((hugs)) Diane and I agree your love shines through. Your situation parallels my own in some ways. Mum broke her hip badly and never really recovered. The dementia seemed to increase as she partially recovered. Looking back, I suspect it may have been there prior to the hip breaking but cert...
Stephanie, In my case well over a year and in fact I still have flashes of grief now. It has taken me almost that time not to jump every time the telephone rings - previously that signalled a problem and a trip to A&E. Ironic that when caring I longed for more time, and when I had the time, I didn't...
How stressful for you, Tracy, although I can see what this looks like from the council's viewpoint. If I recall correctly from my days of Power of Attorney, there are strict rules on what can or can't be gifted. You really need specialist legal advice and the first half hour will be free. https://pu...
Oh, so many downfalls. Where to start? Additional laundry, food and heating costs would potentially use up a good part of that income, especially if it affected the host's discounted council tax, invalidated their house insurance and potentially opened up an opportunity to be sued. If the caree deve...
Hi Nicolas, I can only repeat what everyone else has said - OT should take mum home and let her have a trial run before she goes home, and all equipment should be in place. Again, what happens when the carers are not there? Will mum be able to get to the toilet, have a drink etc? Be warned, it sound...
Lots of charity shops around me, Chris, although simplest way to get rid of stuff is to leave it outside my house - gone in 10 mins! Another one for Melly's spinach: Turkish scrambled eggs - take a bit of tomato, onion, pepper, chilli (anything that needs using up) and fry them, mix in egg, cheese (...